Today we are diving into a very important question that seems to have bubbled forward through my community in the last few weeks.
It is the question that says, how can I know if the guidance I’m receiving is from God or from the ego?
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QUESTION:
“How do I know if it’s God’s Voice – or ego’s?”
This is such essential question for all of us who are walking the path of miracles, especially those of us who are studying A Course in Miracles.
When you start to practice listening and asking and following guidance, the next natural step is discernment.
This matters deeply because acting on ego guidance can create more separation and fear while following God’s voice brings peace, clarity, love, and unity.
So today we’re going to go through five ways to discern true guidance.
I will share practical examples, heart checks and inner wisdom so that you can feel more confident saying yes to spirit without the fear.
MY ANSWER:
Does This Guidance Bless Everyone—or Just Me?
The first key to discerning God’s Voice is: It blesses all, not just you.
So when we receive guidance, the guidance will always bless all and not just you.
God’s guidance always extends love to everyone and everything. It doesn’t just benefit us personally. It literally blesses the whole.
If a thought feels exclusive—like it leaves someone out, it punishes them, or even subtly judges them or dismisses their value—it’s not of God. God’s guidance never harms, excludes, or judges.
It says, “Love your brother as yourself,” and it means it.
You might be tempted to think, “Well, they need to change,” but true guidance never seeks to fix others or manage others.
It only offers love and acceptance to others no matter where they’re at or what state they’re in.
Fixing is a control move from the ego.
Guidance is from God, and simply includes, loves, and acknowledges.
Am I Giving from the Heart—or Hoping to Get Something Back?
Number two: Guidance moves you to give, not to get.
So Spirit moves through us to extend and share through us.
It never seeks to get anything. Anytime getting gets involved, you know that ego’s gotten involved.
Many times our wishes and our getting mechanisms are hiding under the surface.
But if we are honest with ourselves, we will see the drive of the ego to get.
Let’s say you compliment someone on their outfit, but deep down inside of you, you’re hoping that they’ll compliment you back or they’ll like you more, or they’ll approve of you as their friend.
So that compliment that you gave is not really giving. It’s seeking to get approval. It’s seeking to get something back. It looks like kindness, but really it’s transactional.
And God’s guidance isn’t transactional. It literally only gives.
So this is why God’s guidance would ask,
“Would you still say that if they didn’t respond at all?”
True giving doesn’t wait for a return or an exchange. It literally just flows, because love gives just love.
And whether it’s giving a kind word or offering forgiveness, or simply bringing a calm presence into a chaotic room, God’s guidance will always inspire you to give that love.
If your next step feels like you’re trying to get something—whether that’s even getting to be right, getting recognition, getting control, getting security, getting power—then please pause.
Ask again, because those are the ways in which the ego tries to sneak in.
But the Holy Spirit guides you to give, because giving is how we remember who we are. And when we give, we receive.
So even in those times where our best intention is to give all to all, it is so very important for us to look behind our intentions, because Jesus tells us they’re not enough, and focus on our willingness to be seriously one-minded, seriously focused on one goal, and seriously seeing through the eyes of the one mind.
So that means that we must contemplate and question if we have any goals of getting that are hidden or that are lingering within us.
It’s the excavation of those getting mechanisms that will really allow the undoing to happen in the way that it needs to, so that we’re no longer leading ourselves or following our own beliefs and our own ideas.
We are literally following the voice for God that speaks to us and through us to give and to share, and to bless.
Because God, in our creation, has given us everything.
And the only way we know we have everything is by giving everything.
And if there’s ever any stuck energy in our giving, if any of our giving is not received wholly, completely, in the way we intended, we are always willing to examine if there’s any getting.
Because the getting will always block the full-on giving to be given and received.
Is This Bringing Me Closer—or Creating Distance?
Number three: Guidance unites. It does not separate.
Ego separates. It says, “I know.” It says, “Oh, it’s me versus them.”
But God, in His voice, He says, “We.”
It’s inclusive of us and that we’re in this together.
There’s no “my truth.” It’s God’s truth that we all have been given and have access to.
So true guidance will always foster joining, connection, and healing.
It will never make you feel better than someone or more spiritual in a way that sets you apart from them. That’s the ego’s version of specialness.
When you’re being truly guided, you won’t feel isolated either.
You’ll feel part of something greater—a divine flow, a divine plan, a shared voice, a collective healing.
Because truly there is only one voice that we are all learning to listen to—the Holy Spirit. His guidance is not private.
It’s shared. It’s meant to bring us together.
“When I am healed, I am not healed alone.”
That means your healing is never just yours. Every miracle you receive, every shift in perception you allow, blesses everyone—because it is all shared.
Here’s the thing: even when your intention is to unite, we must be mindful.
The ego is very sneaky.
It often hides behind good motives, good intentions, trying to look loving while secretly, underneath, still trying to win, still trying to be better, still trying to be right, still trying to be seen as knowing what’s going on, or to protect its self and self-concept.
For example, I knew a woman who once felt really guided to have a healing conversation with her sister.
So she told herself that she was doing it to restore peace and unity with her sister.
But afterwards, she felt tight.
She felt judged. She felt confused. Why?
Because deep down, she was hoping to finally be heard. To finally be right.
She had a hidden goal to correct her sister’s perspective. And that’s separation.
It’s seeing a problem. It’s not unity. It’s not seeing through the eyes that all problems have already been solved.
God’s voice never confuses or condemns.
If fear, doubt, or conflict creep in after we follow guidance, it’s just a sign to pause.
There may have been a split goal—one part aligned with unity, but the other secretly driven by the ego.
When that happens, we simply must come back to love. We release the desire to be right, to fix, to win, and instead we ask again.
We choose once again, as Jesus teaches us in Chapter 31 of the text.
And then, with an open heart to the good of all, we see things differently.
True guidance brings true peace and true vision that is shared.
It asks us to join, not divide. And it always aligns us with the one purpose we all share—awakening together, healing together, and peace for all.
Is It a Gentle Whisper—or a Demanding Voice?
Number four: It is timeless and fearless.
Guidance from the Holy Spirit comes with a quiet certainty—not an arrogant one.
It never rushes. It’s never pressured. It’s never this or else.
But the ego? The ego screams and demands. It thinks it knows. It thinks it’s right. It points to all of these reasons to prove that itself is real.
But the Holy Spirit is quiet. It whispers gently and softly, and so we must become still and quiet in order to hear its quiet whispers and inner inspirations.
So if you ever feel urgency, if you feel fear or anxiety, if you feel a tightness, a rushed pressure, an intensity that maybe you’ve never even felt before—just pause. Breathe deeply.
Because real guidance does not threaten or demand. It shines a light. It holds a mirror.
It holds a vision of what is true—even while trying to walk through the fear to the other side.
So know that real guidance is a comforter holding your hand, saying:
“It’s okay if you made a mistake. There’s nothing wrong. But there’s nothing to fear. Keep walking through to the other side with Me.”
As A Course in Miracles reminds us, the Holy Spirit does not speak first, but it will always answer.
So if we have a voice that is speaking and getting upset that you’re not getting something now—you’re getting upset that you don’t understand something now, getting upset that someone doesn’t understand you—if the ego’s just ravenous or quick to judge, we must know that this is coming from a mind that is trying to believe that itself knows more than God or the Holy Spirit.
So if we don’t go along with the first prompt of the ego, what happens is we start to experience that the Holy Spirit will always answer us.
But we have to deny the ego, deny the feelings that first come up, deny the sensations of the body so that we can really tune into that intuitive guidance that hears and receives from within.
I have a quick example for this one too.
There was a man that I knew who felt this really strong urge to quit his job.
It felt like guidance to him, but the energy was frantic. It was filled with fear behind the scenes and lots of doubt and uncertainty.
He was overwhelmed, desperate to escape.
And then he realized in much contemplation that that wasn’t God’s voice—that it must be the voice of the ego disguised as intuition.
So he paused. He waited. He prayed. He asked again.
The answers didn’t come right away. But weeks later, in a moment of stillness, a quiet knowing arose:
“Stay for now. Trust me. I have a plan.”
Those three sentences—stay for now, trust me, I have a plan—were all that he needed.
It didn’t make logical sense, but he trusted that voice.
And so he stayed. He surrendered his own timeline.
And three months later, without striving, he was promoted into a new role with less stress, higher pay, and a chance to relocate to a city he had always dreamed of living in.
Waiting allowed the miracle to unfold.
How Can You Tell if You’re Stepping into True Peace?
This is the last one for you: it leaves you in peace.
That’s the fruits. That’s the effect of following Holy Spirit guidance—for you and for all.
So that’s the signature of Spirit: it’s peace.
Even if the action you’re guided towards stretches you or takes you into the unknown, there will be a deep stillness at the core of it that says yes.
It may be quiet. It may be a little bit hard to really understand and pinpoint, but when you really look and really feel, you will know it’s right.
What If Fear Means You’re Not Alone Anymore?
And oftentimes, when we’re trying to follow this peaceful voice of Spirit and it’s leading us outside of our comfort zone, it can feel a little nerve-wracking.
And a lot of the time when we’re stepping out of our comfort zone, that’s completely normal and natural.
When that fear comes up, it’s because we know we’re not doing it on our own anymore.
We’re not doing it by ourselves anymore, and this is gonna require a lot of faith.
So when guidance is asking us to step beyond our comfort zone or lay down familiar ideas, and there’s a little bit of trepidation and fear coming up, know that the fear is not from God.
It’s just the ego reacting to love’s expansion.
But keep on walking. Even though you feel the fear, you’ve got to move to the other side—not bypass it, not go around it—but hit it head on.
The fear can show up as doubt. The fear can show up as uncertainty.
The fear can show up as lack of trust in another. Whatever way the fear presents, just know that that’s the ego reacting to love’s expansion.
And just keep walking forward.
Keep walking forward, and then when you trust the guidance anyway—when you say yes even with shaky hands—that fear will fall away and perfect clarity will step forward.
Courage will step forward.
Because love always strengthens those who follow it and are willing to discern between the Holy Spirit and the ego in their own mind.
Want to Practice This in Real Time?
And don’t forget, my friends—if you wanna study more deeply, if you wanna practice this with others walking the same path as you—join us on Tuesdays.
We meet at 1:00 PM, and the link is below, and I really look forward to seeing you.
Until next time, keep listening to the love that is in your heart and be gentle with yourself as you’re learning this practice.
We are here beside you, holding your hand.
You are not doing this work alone, but you are doing holy work.
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Britney
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